Location: Lag Nig
Age: Above 20
Gender: Female
I surrendered totally to God. I was made one of the
executives in a smaller arm of the fellowship and a brother who was in a year
ahead showed interest in my welfare. He would ask me questions, teach me from
the bible and tell me a lot of things I don’t know. We became friends and in my
200 level break, he was always checking on me and would always call or send messages.
I felt uncomfortable at first but he would always mention a particular word and
when I asked him he would say 'I know you feel it too'
I was getting some
signals but I still insisted he told me exactly. Then, he quoted the scripture where
Samson tied the foxes’ tail to tail and sent them to the camp of the
Philistines and also that Jesus sent his disciples in pairs. I was getting more
confused and he refused to say anything further. I was also afraid of telling
anyone because he was well respected in the fellowship. He is intelligent and he
has a vast knowledge of the Bible. Many people in the fellowship thought we have
something together and I noticed some brothers were keeping their distance from
me. I got close to a brother recently and he showed some resentments. He also
has a lot of female friends, some of whom have been unfriendly to me since I
became friends with him. There is this one especially that used to be close to
him. She suddenly started hiding things from me.
Sometimes, I would ask her who
she was waiting for if I saw her around our fellowship venue and she would say
nothing, only for me to find out that she has been waiting for this particular
brother. I like him very much especially because he is intelligent but I am
angry because I feel he is being insincere with me. Now I am more enlightened about
Christian courtship. My issue is I am more angered because close to d time of
his handing over as executive, he told me that what he had been trying to tell
me was that I should not resist the impression of the Holy Spirit in calling me
to the executives. I felt humiliated. I tried to cover the hurt and we still
remained friends though we quarrelled a couple of times.
He talks without
caution sometimes and he says things I don’t understand and he never explained.
I really will appreciate if he told me exactly what he was driving at because I
knew he proposed but I need him to be clearer. I have talked to God about it, but
he has confused me so I am not sure of what I am hearing. I am ready to forgive
him totally if he tells me exactly what he meant. Also, he is ahead of me but I
am a year older than him. I just want to know if he is meant for me with all
this I have listed.
We talked about age and marriage once and he asked that
what would I do if he asked me out; he cut me short before I said much. Please,
help. I am trying to get myself to heal from the hurt if eventually we depart
without him saying anything or he marries someone else. I just need him to tell
me clearly because he knows he is not telling me the truth. I have developed a
resistance to brothers since I truly love this particular brother. Thanks
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